Inspired by the post below. I’m in an interracial relationship, as a result, I’m not often what people expect to see when I’m introduced by my boyfriend and vice versa. Last weekend we went to an office barbecue. While I was introduced as “girlfriend” initially, as people filtered into the barbecue, the host introduced me as “friend”. Meanwhile, the intraracial couples got introduced as such “girlfriend” , “wife” , “fiancee”. Meanwhile, I’m just a friend. I wasn’t sure how to feel, I mean at least they weren’t overtly hostile, but they decided to simply pretend that the situation in front of them wasn’t how it really was. It was really reductive and bothered me a bit–still bothers me. I mean I don’t have to think twice about telling someone I have a boyfriend, but I may think twice about bringing him somewhere, or having him bring me somewhere. When people don’t see what they’re expecting, you tend to get some interesting reactions–but not many of them are life affirming and supportive of your choices.
Posted by: Ophelia | May 12, 2008