Posted by: Ophelia | May 12, 2008

What’s the best strategy for being yourself?

Thinking About Coming Out at Work? What You Should Know Before Taking the Big Step

A recent Harris poll of 2,868 U.S. adults, of whom 350 self-identified as LGBT, revealed that 44 percent of LGBT respondents felt closeted at work and unable to talk freely about their partners or bring partners to corporate functions. An additional 34 percent said their partners are not considered for social functions. The poll was done in conjunction with Out & Equal and Witeck-Combs Communications.

No. 5: Is this the best time? Timing is everything. Remember, the company also needs to be prepared. If it is a busy time of year or there was has been a major shift in management, consider letting things settle before coming out.

How many heterosexuals do you think have to consider the company’s status before talking about that vacation they took with their loved one, or mentioning the fact that they’re married or went on a date last weekend when asked? Even the steps they provide don’t assure that you’ll get treated fairly or evenly as evidenced by another article: 7 Things NEVER to Say to LGBT Coworkers.

No. 5: “We are not close enough for you to share that information with me.”

Oh boy.



  1. Hah. That’s amusing and sad. This institution is trying to seem open, yet its advice still contains the seeds of prejudice. I guess it’s better to have articles like that than an article advocating full on don’t-ask-don’t-tell.

    What are people’s experiences with this? I work with mostly young people and it is a non issue. The gay folks I work with are comfortable as themselves and so no “coming out” is necessary. If we’re close enough to talk about romance, then we already know about each other’s orientation.

  2. I just think it’s so sad that people who live a certain lifestyle that is in no way doing harm to anyone else, must plan on how they are going to tell their close friends/co-workers (and who ever else), about one of the biggest things in their life. It’s so prevalent everywhere you look also, especially in film and television. Look at “Boy’s Don’t Cry” for instance, he was so afraid to be what he truly was because of what they might do, and they did exactly what he was afraid of. I wish we could all take a page out of Brandon Teena’s book, and people could just accept that. People are just so afraid of change; I’ve seen this at my own work places before, and it’s just saddening. I honestly think that movie could teach us the best strategy to be ourselves.

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