“I respect all the people in the military and… if we say that forced cohabitation is the new rule and we’re saying that if you don’t like the way you feel, then just relax and enjoy it, or tolerate it. Is that fair?”
In a word YES. To ask people to hide in a closet because of the ignorance of others is patenetly unfair. It seems to me that if you are going to ask people to risk their lives, you should respect them enough to let them lead their lives as they see fit. This denial of the ability to serve openly is an affront to every single gay member of the military. It is not the gay person that is the issue, it is the homophobes in the ranks that is the issue. Just telling people to hide their orientation only serves to support the idea that gay people are somehow less than, and that their love is not legitimate. Change does not happen by supporting ideals either in thought, or action that have their basis in injustice.